Tom Bilyeu has the potential to turn a lot of heads when he walks into a room. The creator of wildly successful brand Quest Nutrition and co-founder of Impact Theory, Bilyeu’s focus through the years has been on health for body, mind and soul.
Bilyeu has learned that success isn’t all about money, but rather, matching his mindset to his well-rounded approach to health and work. In fact, while he has seen his teenage dream of acquiring wealth come to fruition, Bilyeu is now less focused on money than ever before.
“The code that I live by is you always do that which moves you toward your goals,” Bilyeu told Jay Shetty in a recent episode of On Purpose with Jay Shetty.
Bilyeu’s journey is one for the books. It’s a story of humble beginnings, deep growth, and hard work that has paid off in more fulfilling ways than he ever thought possible.
I’m the Learner
Early in Tom Bilyeu’s life, he realized his lofty dreams were not going to just magically come true. He was not the smartest or the most skilled, but he was highly motivated and determined to find other ways to stand out. He reflects on when he reasoned through what that would look like.
“I could choose to build my self-esteem around not being right, but finding the right answer,” he explained to Jay Shetty. “I didn’t have to be smart – I just had to work hard to learn. So that became the core of my existence. I decided I’m going to start valuing myself for how rapidly I can admit when I’m wrong, how much I learned, and how much time and energy I put into learning.”
Bilyeu opened up to Jay Shetty about how this posture of learning has permeated every aspect of his life and has come to define him.
“I switched my identity and my behaviors around to being the learner. Then, all of a sudden, everything changed.”
Growing in Self – Awareness
“I feel that you are constantly working on yourself, whether it’s health, relationships, or impact,” Jay Shetty remarked as he pointed out Tom Bilyeu’s knack for healthy self awareness. “You’re constantly working on yourself. What I want to know is, how did you build that mindset?”
“I believe that this is the root of everyone’s biggest challenge,” Bilyeu told Jay Shetty. “The biggest thing is if you’re trying to march down a path of self-improvement without clarity, without a terrifying level of clarity, you’re never gonna make it. So start there. What skill, trait, ability, or belief are you trying to make yours?”
Bilyeu further explained that giving himself grace when he is struggling has been a huge part of being self-aware. Not only does grace drive him to be honest with his feelings, it gives him the freedom to sit with them, process through them, and then move on. Stuffing is not an option.
