Fab Friday with Karamo Brown-Queer Eye-VIDEO OF THE DAY

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Hello everyone. And welcome to South Friday. Let’s do this.

Hey friends, I’m Karamo Brown, B culture host on Netflix is queer eye. So on this episode of bad Friday, I’m going to be giving you three tips so that you can have better interpersonal relationships and a better relationship with yourself. Number one, only bring up one issue and one issue alone when having a conversation with someone else, if you’re needing more support with your kids, but you’re also needing more free time. Cause you’re also with the kids. Those sound like the same issues, but they’re not as a father. I get it having kids. You need a lot of support, but also I need daddy time and that’s okay as well. But you can’t talk about those two things at the same time. So talk about getting support. Talk about what that looks like. Then after that setup, talk about how you can get out of the house to go get you some free time, get you something to drink and hang with your friends.

Those are two separate things. Don’t convolute a conversation. Tip number two, you have to be more of an active listener, which means be quiet and let the other person talk. It’s all of our natural response to want to interject and say no, no, no. That wasn’t right. Or yes, that was okay, but not you can’t do that. You have to allow the other person to be able to share what they’re feeling, share their thoughts without being interrupted. It’s hard when I’m talking to my fiance, he says some things sometimes. And I’m like, no, no, no, that’s not right in my head. Allow them to say what they’re feeling experiencing and what they’re going through. And then after they’re done and you give them them their respect to talk, allow them to do the same for you. When it’s your turn to talk, they are quiet.

Tip number three, create a boundary word or safe word. Because sometimes when you’re in conversations, you start feeling emotion that you didn’t feel before. It could be anger. It could be sadness. And what happens is that you don’t want to have the conversation anymore, but the other person still wants to engage. So by saying the boundary word or the safe word, you are able to slow down, say, let’s pause, walk away and go process your feelings. Listen, I know this is hard because when someone wants to walk away, you’re like, no, no, no. I want to get my point across. The truth of the matter is, is that you’ll never get your point across to someone who’s already emotionally or mentally shut down, does not serve the conversation. And it does not serve emotional or mental growth. Allow the person to walk away. It’s going to help you be so much better in your relationships. And within yourself, listen friends. This is not an easy journey to have great interpersonal relationships. If it was, we would all be perfect friends and imperfect, perfect relationships, but it takes work because it’s challenging. But with these tips, you’ll get there. So remember only say one issue at a time. Number two, actively listen, and number three, have a boundary work. It’s going to take some work, but trust me, you can do it slow.