MBL Motivational MONDAY! How To Keep Going On Your Weight Loss Journey. Don't Give Up!

Hi you guys, Christina here, and I wanted to take a moment since it’s Monday and I thought, okay, Mondays are a perfect time to do a motivational Monday video. So I started doing this series on one of my private support groups and we call it motivational Mondays. And I just basically go live and I share a topic that is the topic of the week. And so I thought this topic was really, really good and I wanted to come over onto my personal page and share with you guys because heck, why not, right? I think we could all use a little bit of motivation. So today’s topic is actually on failure. I know. Crazy, right? We’re going to talk about failure. But the truth is, honestly, you guys, the people that we all look up to, those people who are living the dreams, they’re doing it, they’re, they’re having this amazing success.

They are the rock stars in our world. They’re the ones we look at and go, wow, how do they do it? How did they reach those goals? Honestly, they failed a lot and they failed again and again and again and again. But the difference between them and where I’m standing right now, literally the difference between me and the person I’m looking at going, you are a total rock star, is that when they fail, they pick themselves up and they keep going. They keep trying. They keep going because let me tell you, every single one of us, you, me, everyone, everyone, you kind of eat everyone. Everyone fails, everyone falls down, everyone messes up. Listen, I’m a board certified master nutritionist. I’ve lost 134 pounds and you better bet I fail. I fail all the time. I fall off track. My kids will be like, mom, are you supposed to be having Chick-fil-A fries?

And I’m like, sure, I want these fries right now. I fail y’all. I fail all the time. But the difference between failing and and and not failing is the thinnest line and it’s consistency. Consistency is what keeps me going. Consistency, knowing that even if I messed up, even if I fell off track and I ate the French fries or had the pizza or whatever, and including, you know, missing a workout or I didn’t do so great in a part of my business, or I missed a writing deadline or whatever, right? I yelled at my kids, you know, things happen. Any area where I fail, I know that what’s beautiful is that we have this word, and this is the word of the week. It’s consistency with consistency. We can always dust ourselves off and get right back on track. That’s what is so beautiful about it.

You guys, and I like to tell my clients, and I shared this earlier today, I compare this brushing your teeth, you know, have you ever left the house somewhere? Oh no, I totally forgot to you. Fill in the blank, whatever that may be. You know, I’ve left the house and completely forgot to put on mascara and um, truthfully, honestly, without mascara, I look kind of like a poodle. And so it’s like, Oh, it does it. Does that mean I’ll never wear it again? Absolutely not. I’ll do it. You know, I’ll just remember next time, or brushing your teeth. I love to use this example because listen, we all know we’ve done it at least once in our life. We’ve all done it where we’ve went, Oh crap, I forgot to brush my teeth. And what does that mean you guys? What does that mean to you?

That’s a failure. Does it mean that you freak out and you go, Oh, I’m never brushing my teeth again. I’m up teeth brushing failure. I’m now going to look like I’m from the middle ages and I’m going to let my teeth raw and I’m never brushing them again. No. When you forget, you just simply go, you brushed your teeth. The next opportunity you can, and the truth is, is so many people, you guys, listen, I work in wellness. I’m a board certified master nutritionist. I’ve been working with people and and wellness and weight loss and nutrition for over a decade now. And I see it all the time where people have this all or nothing mindset. It’s, it’s, it’s crazy because I, one of them who used to be that way where I thought that if I wasn’t perfect, if I didn’t eat perfectly, I didn’t work out perfectly.

I didn’t drink exactly at least one gallon of water or do it all perfectly that I was failing and I’m also that same person that I would set these goals and say, I will lose X, Y, Z number. Right? You fill in the blank and if I didn’t do it, I wasn’t happy and I was, I was like, that’s it. I’m done. I’m giving up and I’m here to tell you that that is just not healthy and that will not help you create a healthy lifestyle or a healthy mindset. You have to have a mindset of flexibility. You have to be like, it’s okay when I fail. You dust yourself off and you keep going. These failures, I have failed more times than I can count in my wellness. I’ve failed more times than I can count in missing workouts. I have failed more times than I can count.

I don’t even know how many times Chick-Filet has gotten me. You guys, everybody fails. But the key is consistency. I know that it’s okay when you’re consistent, when you know that this isn’t about an extreme diet. This isn’t about weighing a perfect number, looking a certain way, whatever you fill in the blank. Everybody has these expectations that we secretly place on ourselves. We like to blame society, we like to blame the fashion industry. We like to blame everybody else saying, Oh, you say I have to be this way. But the truth is we do it too to ourselves and especially for my type a personality. Friends out there. I’m a type a personality. In fact, I’m reading a book right now. I love to read and write. Now this, the book of this week I’m reading is called when perfection isn’t perfect. And I think it’s something like that.

And basically it’s a book for people who are type a personalities, who are extremists, where if they don’t do perfect, they’re done. They think they failed. And the truth is so many of us at this way, so many people, especially people who have goals, who have dreams, who have ambitions, which I know that’s you. That’s why you’re watching this video. You wouldn’t be watching a self help video if you didn’t care. You care and you care a lot and that’s good. You should care. But it’s when we care to the point that we think we have to be perfect. I’m here to tell you, you don’t have to be perfect to be successful. You don’t. In fact, you can’t expect it to be perfect. You’re never going to be perfect. I’m never going to be perfect. You’re never going to be perfect. We’re never going to be perfect.

So when we think we have to do it all perfectly or we failed, it’s wrong. And I want to show you guys something. So you all know that I’m a master nutritionist and I work with people on nutrition, on weight loss. I’m balancing out their hormones all the time, right? And it makes me, it makes me so sad. It breaks my heart when I get these emails or messages from people who are doing, doing their best, they’re making good changes, they’re getting healthy, and they’ll send me a message to, they’ll go, Ugh, I’m so exhausted. I’m so mad. I’m so grumpy. I’m so let down because I only lost five pounds, and they are pissed because they had a number in their mind of what they thought was perfection for their goal. Right. Well, it’s funny. I want to show you what five pounds actually looks like.

This right here. If I know in it, lovely. I know in that pretty, this right here is a human replica of five pounds of body fat. I know it’s girls, right? Look at that. This is what we a master nutritionists, naturopathic doctors, MDs. We keep in our clinics to show you guys what five pounds of body fat actually looks like, so the next time you try to say it was only five pounds, look at this. Let this burn to your mindset. What five pounds of body fat actually looks like. You guys. This is what five pounds a body fat actually looks like and it’s not too pretty is it? It’s actually quite large and it’s pretty heavy for what five pounds looks like. And it’s interesting how we set these numbers and these expectations of think, I’m only going to be happy if I lose X, Y, Z. And then we get pissed and we get mad and we get frustrated when it’s only five pounds.

But look at what five pounds is. You guys, this is five pounds. This is five pounds. I like to wiggle it just to burn it into your mind, but the truth is this is what five pounds looks like. And so the next time we set these unrealistic numbers or we say, I’m only going to be happy if I’m a size two or size four and I weigh this much, listen to you guys. It really shouldn’t be about a number and it shouldn’t be about creating unrealistic expectations. It really should be about consistency. You should be mad if you’re not being consistent. You should be because you can control that. You can control whether or not you take your supplements. You can control whether or not you move your body today. You can control whether or not you drink your water. Today what you cannot control is how and what capacity your body releases body fat.

You cannot control that. Your body will release body fat at a rate and at a capacity at which it builds is healthiest for you. If you’re living your healthiest, if your doing your best, if you my friend are being consistent and being healthy, your body will release body fat at its perfect time and so everybody loses differently. Everybody is differently and that’s why you can’t compare. It’s not about comparing to your mom or your sister or me or your best friend. You can’t compare. You have to know that your body is a genius and it’s going to do what’s best for you. That’s what’s so awesome about your body is it will lose at the rate it should booze. So what a lot of people don’t realize is that body fat. This right here. You guys isn’t necessarily a bad thing. It’s not. In fact, body fat is packed with energy.

It’s packed with nutrition, nutrients, vitamins. So if we can tap into actually burning our body fat, your body is going to be on fire with energy. That’s what’s amazing. So the next time you say it was only leaf at lbs, remember this, this is five pounds. This is five pounds. This is five pounds. If you embodied that, and the truth is we need to get our body to a place where it can feel safe, where you’re, where your metabolic hormones feel balanced and are balanced to release this stored body fat. Because if your body is out of balance hormonally, it doesn’t matter how much you starve yourself, how many times a day you weigh yourself. If your hormones are off balance, it’s not going to let go of this. It won’t because it’s trying to protect you. When your body is storing fat, it thinks it’s actually protecting you.

I know it’s and what happens is we just get more stressed out about it and then thus our hormones become more off balance. Stress causes your body to increase a hormone called cortisol. Cortisol is something that makes your body store body fat in your reserve zones, which are your chin, your underarm, your belly, your hips, and your thighs because it thinks it’s protecting you because like I said, body fat is not necessarily a bad thing. This can protect you in times of famine. This can protect you if you were on the run or if you were deserted on a stranded Island, but this also does something interesting that a lot of people don’t realize. Body fat actually lowers your energy and it lowers your immune system because this little body Cara hearing, and this is only five pounds, you guys, this is only five pounds.

Body fat uses your energy, your nutrition, your nutrients to feed it first before it feeds your organs, your lungs, your mind, your muscles, your brain. It literally needs the fat cells first. If you’re in crisis, if your body is stressed out and your stress levels, your cortisol is through the roof. It feeds back cells first because it’s kind of like it sees it as you’re saving a savings account. Like it’s, it’s here to protect you. It’s your crisis savings account. So my friend, if you are stressing out right now, your body’s going to store more body fat because your cortisol is telling it to. And so the only thing that you can do right now, you can control this. Number one is you need to eat healthy. You guys, I know it’s not fun, but your nutrition number one, you gotta get your nutrition under control.

Number two is I would highly suggest taking something like this. This is an adaptogen. This is a fancy term for it helps your body adapt to stress. So it actually lowers your cortisol and makes it to where your body will lower cortisol and stop storing body fat. I know, we’re like, yay, let’s do it right? So you guys listen the next time, the next time you’re stressed, you’ve got to remember that stress is not going to help you. Stress is not going to help you reach your goal. Stress fixes nothing. It actually makes it worse. And of course the more you stress, the more your body’s going to store body fat, then you’re going to see it and then you’re going to stress out more and it’s just this vicious cycle. The best thing that you can do you guys, the best thing you can do is number one, focus on your nutrition.

Focus on it. It’s not about weighing a certain number. It’s not about looking like a model or wearing a bikini. It’s really about your health, you guys, it truly is about your health. It’s about your health. I’ve lost 134 pounds. This right here is a five pound replica of human body fat. It’s a lot of these, and to be honest, I didn’t do this because I wanted to be a model or look like a bikini model or wear a bikini or a bathing suit. I just want it to be healthy. I wanted to overcome diabetes. I wanted to get my thyroid under control. I wanted to get my stress levels down. I wanted to feel better and I wanted to have energy. I wanted to stop feeling like a dead cell phone because that is how I felt. I was constantly tired. I was constantly exhausted.

I felt like I went to bed tired. I woke up tired and I just wanted to feel better. I didn’t know that I was going to become a nutritionist. I had no idea that I would start my own vegan organic supplement line. I had no idea I would be sharing on TV shows or magazines or all over the world. I had no idea. I just knew that I had to get healthy for my family and for me. That’s all I knew and I’m telling you, you guys, you are worth it. The effort is worth it and the key is consistency. It’s consistency. It’s doing the right things every day and you don’t even have to be perfect. So many people think that they have to be perfect to be healthy. You don’t. I’m not perfect. I mess up all the time. I have failed more times than I can count.

I have fallen off track. I have missed workouts. I have messed up big time. I’ve forgotten to take my supplements. I have done it yet. You guys, I have failed so much but I keep going and I keep going and I keep going and now it’s over 10 years. I’ve been out my goal weight and I get to help others do this. I get to help and I want to share one little story before I let you go, but literally, um, I was just talking about this with my sister. She works, she works for me at fit body and she is a brand new nutritionist and she’s been a patient care director for me for a year now and just this month, this week, in fact, she reached her goal of losing 130 pounds. Now she’s not done, she’s still has about 30 more pounds to go and she’s so she’s still in the thralls of, of this journey.

She hasn’t reached your goal yet. And I share this because so many people can look at my journey and go, well you’ve been there a long time, but my sister hasn’t, she’s, she’s still in the journey just like you, just like a lot of us. And so what most people don’t realize and they look at her and they’re like, you’ve lost 130 pounds. It’s easy for you. You’re related to Christina. She must help you. Let me tell you, that’s not the case. She has gone through so much ups and downs, wins and losses, highs and lows just like you. She deals with it every day. But what most people don’t realize in her first month, she didn’t really lose anything. She only lost four pounds in her first month and she was trying really, really, really hard, really hard. And then in her second month it was like three pounds.

And again, she was being so consistent. And I share this to say because it wasn’t until her sixth month, six months that she ended up really starting to see significant weight loss. And so I share that to say that even in the little victories, even when it’s only five pounds like this, you celebrate that you celebrate it because it’s, it’s focusing on the little victories and focusing on those little lifestyle changes and seeing those as a victory is what will keep you going. When times get tough, it’ll keep you going. When you really want to give up, it’ll keep you going because I’m telling you, if you don’t celebrate these small victories, the, I had fruit instead of chips or I had zucchini noodles instead of French fries or I had cauliflower instead of pasta or I chose a garden salad. Instead of, you know, whatever is normally your, your advice.

If you celebrate those daily lifestyle changes, it’s going to be simply a diet and you will go back to old ways and you will gain all the weight back plus 10 more or 20 more. Because I have been there and I’m telling you, the only way you see real success and you keep it off longterm is by focusing on consistency and just focusing on the healthy lifestyle changes. Remember you guys, it’s not about weight. It’s not about what size you wear. It’s not about how much that number on the scale says it’s about how healthy are you living every single day. And what I tell people all the time is focus. Focus on the little victories because whatever you focus on gets bigger. If you focus on everywhere where you’re lacking, where you’re weak, where you messed up, where you fell off track, that’s all you’re going to see.

But if you’ve see those good areas, those areas where you one today, maybe you chose water over soda, maybe you woke up and you took your supplements, that’s good. Those are all areas where you are winning in life. Maybe you chose to go for a walk instead of watching yet another episode of tiger came. Maybe you chose something good. Maybe you put on fun music and you cleaned your house to music. That’s movement. It’s about consistency. You guys, it’s about being consistent, not perfect, forget perfect, forget being perfect. Stop it. I had to do it to you guys. I had to tell myself perfection is a lie. It’s a myth and it’s unattainable, but consistency is 100% in your control. You can decide whether you keep going. You can decide if you’re going to give up. You can decide if you’re going to dust yourself off, hold your head high and say, I’m going to do this.

You decide that you hold the power and you can try again and again and again and again because it happens, you will fail guaranteed. And it’s not. If it’s one and it’s okay, I’m here to tell you it’s okay, you will fail. I will fail. We’ll all fail. But you know what? That’s okay. The most successful people, those people that are just icons, those people that we look at and we’re like, wow, they are living my dreams. Like they’re my goals. Hashtag goals I can promise you they fail. And you know what? They dust themselves off. They hold their shoulders back, they hold their head high and they try again. And that is the difference between someone who’s going to do it and someone who’s going to do it and give up. Not you, my friend. If you watch this video, especially all the way to the end, you are do it kind of person.

You are a champion, you are a winner and you can do this and you will make it. You’re going to do it hands down. I believe in you. I know you can do it. So, um, I just want to encourage you, if you need help, reach out to me. I’d love to help you. I’m a master nutritionist, but I’m also a real person. I’m a real mom of three who has walked this journey, who has cried over and out losing enough weight and who has realized that it doesn’t matter anymore. It’s not about how much I weigh. I don’t even own a scale. I focus every single day on living healthier. I focus every single day on living a healthy lifestyle. I don’t care how much I weigh, I don’t care what size I wear. All I care is, am I healthy? Do I energy to run my race?

Can I chase my kids around the parking lot when my dog Maverick bolts out the door? Can I run down the street and catch his little furry butt and bring him back in the house? That’s all I care about. I care about am I living every day in a way that says, I love my body in a way that says I’m thankful for this body. And that’s all I ask of my clients. All I want is every day for you to be one step closer to living healthier. And when we fail, not if, when we fail that we move on quickly, we forgive ourselves quickly and we say it’s okay. Next step I’m going to do better. And you know, uh, my clients actually eat five to six times a day. I know it’s crazy, right? And what’s awesome is since they’re eating five to six times a day, if they mess up on a mil, heck it’s okay.

You got five other chances to do it right? You got five chances, minimum five to six chances a day to do it right? So in the end you’re going to make it. And that’s what it’s about. Consistency, consistency, consistency is the key. So hang in there regardless of what program you’re doing, or maybe you don’t have a program or maybe you’re searching, I’m here to tell you what, regardless, don’t give up. Don’t give up on your goals. Don’t give up on your dreams. Don’t give up on your mission, whatever it may be, whether it’s to get healthy or start a business or write that book. Listen, it took me 10 years to write my book, to write my book, and now I’ve written seven and I’m going to tell you that it’s come with a lot of failing, a lot of falling off track, but if you just keep going, you will make it.

I don’t care what your goal is, whether it’s to overcome an illness, to lose 10 pounds, to lose 50 pounds, lose a hundred pounds, lose 134 pounds like me, or maybe it’s to go back to school or start, restart a business or find the love of your life or rebuild the relationship with the love of your life. Maybe it’s to reconnect with, with yourself, to be happy again with yourself, with your life, whatever you guys, everything, everything, every part of life you will win. You will reach it. If you’re a fuse to quit, don’t give up. Don’t give up on you. You are worth it. And maybe you were just needing a little pep talk and I’m here to give it to you today. So if you’re looking for a sign of when is it a good time to try again. Here it is. Here’s your sign.

It’s time. It’s your time, and this is your time to shine and to rise up and to be strong and to be bold and to walk with courage and to say, I don’t care what yesterday was. I don’t care how much I failed last year or last decade. I’m going to win. I’m going to make my goals. I’m going to walk boldly into my dreams and I can do it. That’s all that matters in the end is that you keep going. So today was the lesson on failure. We all do it. We all do it. We all fail. But the point is that when you do fail, you dust yourself off and you keep going. So if you need help at all, and maybe one of the areas where you’re trying to get, um, to get stronger and you need a coach to help you, a nutritionist, I’d love to be your nutritionist.

So reach out to me. I’ll leave you my link to my number one wellness and weight loss program. It’s what helped me lose over 134 pounds and keep it off over a decade while having three babies, and it’s what helped thousands of my patients all over the country lose weight and do it. The healthy weight. We focus on health, not skinny. We don’t even use the D word, which is diet. We don’t use that word in on this program. If you’d like to learn more, go to my website, fit body weight loss.com. I’d love to help you and I want, I want you to know you can do this regardless. Whatever it is, you can do it. You have that dream, that desire, that mission for a reason. It’s your assignment and I’m telling you, you can run your race. You got this. Don’t let failures hold you back. Don’t let fear hold you back. Don’t let negative mindsets hold you back. You got this. I’ll talk to you later. Have a great day. Bye.